Rosamond B. Pinchetti of Tremont, a woman who accomplished much good in her life despite a continuing struggle with bipolar disorder, died at age 82, at Sonogee Nursing facility in Bar Harbor.
She was born Aug. 31, 1929 in Bernard, the youngest daughter of fisherman Ralph G. Benson and his wife Eva (Wooster), a part-time librarian.
As a little girl Rose faced her first life-threatening medical issue. Her appendix burst, causing an infection that put her in the hospital for six months. Not long after she recovered, she developed painful mastoiditis that put her into the hospital again for an extended time.
Her niece, Suzanne Madeira of Bernard, wondered if these early traumas were connected to the debilitating mental challenges that plagued her aunt throughout her adult life, interrupting, at intervals, the progress of a woman with a lot of potential.
Rose grew up in a household where education was highly valued. So despite the Great Depression, Rose was encouraged to stay in class when a lot of children were leaving after grade school to earn money to help their families.
Shortly after she graduated from Pemetic High School in 1947 as salutatorian of her class, Rose went on to study office management at Husson College.
After graduating she found a job at an office in Hartford, Conn. At a church social the attractive brunette caught the eye of a young engineer named Irvin Pinchetti. His jovial good nature and ready smile were unforgettable.
After a brief courtship the couple married in 1953, settling in the Hartford area where Irvin worked for Pratt and Whitney. The two enjoyed an active life together, going on skiing and hunting and fishing trips in Vermont, with summer visits to Rose’s family on Mount Desert Island, where Irvin learned about saltwater fishing.
But inexplicably from time to time Rose would fall into a deep depression, lacking the energy and even the will it took to get out of bed in the morning. These lows would be followed by equally inexplicable interludes of euphoric highs. Sometimes at the extreme ends of this spectrum, Rose had to be hospitalized for her own safety.
Diagnosed with what was then called manic depression, Rose underwent shock therapy, which she said was difficult but helpful, and drug therapies that eventually, for a while, anyway, balanced her moods, allowing her and Irvin to pick up the loose ends.
Without children of their own, Rose and Irvin were happy to have visits from their nieces and nephews during these good times. Her niece Suzanne recalls trips to the theater to see Victor Borge and other A-list performers.
When Irvin retired in 1981, the Pinchettis decided to make MDI their home, moving to a family house in Bernard. Later, because Rose found the uncertainties of distant travel unsettling, Irvin built a camp, about a mile away on the water, where the two would spend long summer days and entertain visiting friends.
Rose became active in the local Kiwanis Club, Tremont Historical Society, and the Tremont Ladies Aid. She was a trustee of the Bass Harbor Library and a member of the Tremont Congregational Church. For many years she was the Tremont correspondent for the weekly Bar Harbor Times.
Rose’s habit of engaging just about everyone she met in a meaningful conversation about their lives, families and work, and keeping copious notes and daily journals, made her the perfect person for the job of letting the folks of Tremont know what their neighbors were up to. Plus she had an engaging, lively writing style and never missed a deadline.
Throughout their marriage, Irvin managed to maintain his naturally sunny nature, which helped light the way through the darker times. When he suffered a debilitating stroke in 2007, it was Rose’s turn to step up, and she did. She hardly missed a day to be with him at the hospital and, later, the convalescent home, until he died a month or so later.
Rose managed to live on independently in their Bernard home until about 18 months ago. Her niece Suzanne was nearby and says Rose kept herself busy with her groups, and trips to the post office and the library for another Elizabeth Ogilvie or Ruth Moore book. But when the next depression descended there was no Irvin to light her way. It was necessary, then, for her to move to Sonogee.
She says her aunt’s last year there was a relatively good one. Her mood eventually stabilized, and she made many friends among the staff and residents. But after she suffered a series of falls and medical setbacks she made it clear to her family that she was prepared to go, whenever God decided her work was done.
She is survived by her sister Prudence Beal of Southwest Harbor, several nieces and nephews and grandnieces and nephews.
In addition to her husband and parents, her sister Marilyn Marshall Coombs predeceased her.
A service of remembrance is scheduled for 2 p.m. on Tuesday May 22, at Tremont Congregational Church in Bernard. Interment will be in the Benson family cemetery on Lopaus Point. Gifts in Rose’s memory may be made to the Bass Harbor Library, P.O. Box 99, Bernard ME 04612 or Southwest Harbor Animal Welfare, P.O. Box 434, Southwest Harbor ME 04679. Condolences may be expressed at www.jordanfernald.com.