Kickstarter has lots of gray areas

Dear Nicole:

What do you do when a friend starts a Kickstarter for something you don’t think is appropriate?

— Fundless

I think as a society we are collectively sick of people using these social fundraising sites to, say, fundraise for a lavish wedding or a vacation. No one is making you have a $20,000 wedding, crazy!

But lots of these campaigns are gray areas. A nonprofit idea that seems like it hasn’t been thought through. A business venture that seems to ask for way too much money. A sick person fundraising for unclear medical costs. We all have our feelings about each one of these areas and it depends on who, what, where, when and why details too.

So in most cases, I say the way you don’t show your support is 1) not to give money and 2) not to leave supportive comments, likes, etc. when your friends post about it online or talk about it in real life. If it’s someone you know really well, you can try talking to him or her, but in most cases I’m guessing it won’t get you far. Let the dollars, or really lack thereof, speak for themselves. And if they ask you your opinion during or after, you can suggest they save the money, take out a loan or search for an angel investor (i.e. more traditional ways to get funds) for their pet project.

Dear Nicole:

Do people with garlic breath even know how bad it stinks? I know there’s this whole contingent out there that believes garlic is a vegetable, not a spice, but even long after they’ve eaten it this plume billows out of the mouth from their lungs or semmingly on every breath.

— Gagged out in Bar Harbor

I have one former client with halitosis so amazing I can’t believe he doesn’t realize it. I would always immediately offer him a coffee when he came in and keep a professional distance. I say you do the same.

I have a friend who swears by garlic and peanut butter sandwiches and, since he never gets sick, who’s to say he’s wrong about garlic’s healing properties? But last I checked, people can put whatever they want in their mouths and chronic halitosis can signify a more serious medical condition. If you know them well enough, express concern for a medical condition but if you know this is a garlic enthusiast just smile, offer refreshment and keep a 3-foot area around you. It is all any of us can do.



Nicole Ouellette

Nicole Ouellette

When Nicole isn't giving advice she's completely unqualified to give, she runs an Internet marketing company in Bar Harbor, where she lives with her husband Derrick and their short dog Gidget. She loves young adult novels, cooking and talking French to anyone who'll talk back. [email protected]

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