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  • On my own and lovin’ it

    On my own and lovin’ it

    Dear Carolyn: I’m single. I’ve been single my entire 60 years. I travel alone most of the time, yes, even on vacation. I’m sick of people being shocked that I drove cross-country twice alone. I’m sick of people giving me odd looks and telling me, “Your day will come,” when I am alone on vacation,

  • Mother of the groom wants a more elaborate wedding

    Mother of the groom wants a more elaborate wedding

    Dear Carolyn: I’m trying not to be hurt by my future daughter-in-law’s attitude toward the wedding she’s planning with my son, “Paul,” but it’s proving difficult. “Mara” is a young widow and had a big wedding with her late husband. I can understand not wanting to do that all again, but this is Paul’s first

  • Anti-male prejudice a deal breaker

    Anti-male prejudice a deal breaker

    Dear Carolyn: My girlfriend and I are both female. She has always had some anti-male leanings, but she has become unhinged with the sexual harassment news in the last month. She posts things on social media like, “All men are pigs. Yes, I said all.” I pointed out that I have dear friends who are

  • Can this marriage be saved?

    Can this marriage be saved?

    Dear Carolyn: My husband has had to travel for the past several weeks. We have young kids. I haven’t missed him at all. Not as a partner and not even helping with the kids, since he doesn’t do much. He is a good dad, but he and I constantly bicker when we are together (both

  • Might divorce be genetic?

    Might divorce be genetic?

    Dear Carolyn: I am wary of dating guys whose parents are divorced. My parents and most of my friends’ parents are happily married. I think people whose parents are divorced may have a different sense of marriage — i.e., that it doesn’t have to be for a lifetime. I think it does. I basically have

  • Grandma’s nicknames rile mom

    Grandma’s nicknames rile mom

    Hi, Carolyn: My mother-in-law, “Linda,” has been calling my daughter Tootsie as a nickname since the day she was born. I have no idea where this nickname came from but it drives me crazy. I have asked her to call her by her given name so she is not confused as she grows older and

  • My boyfriend wears ladies’ lingerie

    My boyfriend wears ladies’ lingerie

    Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend is a very athletic, CrossFit, off-road-biking, jock kind of guy. He also sometimes likes to wear ladies’ lingerie, which is completely fine with me. The other day he was wearing a satiny bra under a T-shirt and a friend of ours happened to see the strap. The friend is kind of