Ask Carolyn

  • Next time, Mom, Count to 10

    Next time, Mom, Count to 10

    Dear Carolyn: My seventh-grade daughter is being frozen out of her friends’ parties and sleepovers. Two months ago, she attended a party with close friends, both boys and girls. She told me afterward that although the parents were in and out of the room all night, while they were out one of the kids started

  • His future feelings are his to manage

    His future feelings are his to manage

    Dear Carolyn: Do you think maybe the boyfriend in your column from earlier this month (http://bit.ly/OtherImprovement) genuinely does care about her and just wants to see her have healthy relationships with her family, possibly for her own good? My husband is not close with either of his parents. They had him in high school, split

  • Stay or go? This one isn’t easy

    Stay or go? This one isn’t easy

    Dear Carolyn: Long story short, my boyfriend is going through a rough time (his dad died unexpectedly last year, his mom is in hospice care with a terminal illness). We’ve been together for almost five years and we’re in our early 20s, but I’m not sure if I want to be with him anymore for

  • Save your marriage or save yourself?

    Save your marriage or save yourself?

    Dear Carolyn: My wife has been telling me as long as we’ve known each other (around 10 years now) that she wants nothing but openness and honesty from me. So when she asks me personal questions, especially questions that bring up things from my past or that I have deep personal connections to, such as

  • Invite Mom to your wedding? Why?

    Invite Mom to your wedding? Why?

    My mother and I have a very toxic relationship and have fought on and off over the years. When she gets angry she spreads half-truths that make me look bad, says hurtful things and tries to sabotage my plans. She’s very narcissistic, manipulative and controlling. I’m getting married next year, and she’s telling me nobody

  • Worried about aging parent

    Worried about aging parent

    Dear Carolyn: I have a parent in their 60s who has not seen a doctor for 20-plus years. They have had the occasional insurance checkup (blood pressure, etc.) and visit the dentist regularly. That’s it. I have raised the issue several times over the last decade, to the point of pleading, but they refuse to

  • It’s time to call out the cruel foodie

    It’s time to call out the cruel foodie

    Dear Carolyn: We belong to a 10-person gourmet group where eight of us get along well. One person is very picky about all kinds of things and makes snide comments during conversations where her input is not appropriate. All of us have been polite, accommodating and forgiving, but in the last few months she has