Blue collar guy seeks romantic doubles match

Dear Nicole:

What are your thoughts about shooting to date someone who’s out of your league? I’m just a regular guy, my pickup truck is only two-wheel drive, and I don’t have enough disposable income to vacation anywhere fancy (or anywhere for that matter.) There’s this summer girl over in Northeast Harbor who is gorgeous. I met her working the Tennis Club last summer. We chat from time to time on Facebook. I want to ask her out, but I don’t have a Ferrari parked in my carriage house, if you catch my drift.

— Not Cliff, Biff or Tavis in Seal Harbor


You know what, Seal Harbor Working Man? Your love interest has seen your truck (and snooped you on Facebook not vacationing in Miami or waving yourself with hundred dollar bills), so she probably has a good idea of your situation. If she wanted Biff, she’d be chatting with him.

That said, offer a low-key first date with her. (Don’t “set the tone” by taking her out for a $200 meal on a first date.) Suggest something you like doing anyway, maybe ice fishing or grabbing pizza. If she suggests caviar while lying on a bear skin rug instead, you’ll know she is not down. If she happily eats pizza and beats you at pool after, you’ll be glad you didn’t let what you think she wants get in the way of what she actually does. Ask her because guess what? The worse she can do is not go out with you, which she’s already not doing now.


Dear Nicole:

I am a passionate watcher of “House of Cards,” the third season of which landed on Netflix Feb. 27. The new episodes are every bit as good as those in seasons 1 and 2. But one thing mystifies me. If you watch the opening credits you will observe something like three producers and seven or eight executive producers.

What do producers do? What do executive producers do?

— On the Couch in Castine


This question can be answered by the Internet better than by me. That said, I have heard of actors getting “vanity credits” as a kind of perk that’s part of a deal. So it’s not necessarily that all producers are created equal.

Nicole Ouellette

Nicole Ouellette

When Nicole isn't giving advice she's completely unqualified to give, she runs an Internet marketing company in Bar Harbor, where she lives with her husband Derrick and their short dog Gidget. She loves young adult novels, cooking and talking French to anyone who'll talk back. [email protected]

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