Articles by: Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax

Syndicated Advice Columnist
Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.
  • Stay or go? This one isn’t easy

    Stay or go? This one isn’t easy

    Dear Carolyn: Long story short, my boyfriend is going through a rough time (his dad died unexpectedly last year, his mom is in hospice care with a terminal illness). We’ve been together for almost five years and we’re in our early 20s, but I’m not sure if I want to be with him anymore for

  • Save your marriage or save yourself?

    Save your marriage or save yourself?

    Dear Carolyn: My wife has been telling me as long as we’ve known each other (around 10 years now) that she wants nothing but openness and honesty from me. So when she asks me personal questions, especially questions that bring up things from my past or that I have deep personal connections to, such as

  • Invite Mom to your wedding? Why?

    Invite Mom to your wedding? Why?

    My mother and I have a very toxic relationship and have fought on and off over the years. When she gets angry she spreads half-truths that make me look bad, says hurtful things and tries to sabotage my plans. She’s very narcissistic, manipulative and controlling. I’m getting married next year, and she’s telling me nobody

  • Worried about aging parent

    Worried about aging parent

    Dear Carolyn: I have a parent in their 60s who has not seen a doctor for 20-plus years. They have had the occasional insurance checkup (blood pressure, etc.) and visit the dentist regularly. That’s it. I have raised the issue several times over the last decade, to the point of pleading, but they refuse to

  • It’s time to call out the cruel foodie

    It’s time to call out the cruel foodie

    Dear Carolyn: We belong to a 10-person gourmet group where eight of us get along well. One person is very picky about all kinds of things and makes snide comments during conversations where her input is not appropriate. All of us have been polite, accommodating and forgiving, but in the last few months she has

  • Let daughter, 22, find her own way

    Let daughter, 22, find her own way

    Dear Carolyn: How does one delicately tell one’s adult child that they really don’t know everything at 22? And perhaps mom still knows a little more than she does? — Va. If you really do know more than she does, then you know (1) she might turn out to be right about this (whatever it

  • Mom sows seeds of discord

    Mom sows seeds of discord

    Dear Carolyn: Our 60-year-old mom has five grown children, 22 to 39. Two of us have recently discovered that she has been gossiping, telling stories out of context, spinning the truth, spreading rumors and sometimes telling outright lies about each of us to the others. This has often pitted one sibling against the other. She

  • Bidding for baby

    Bidding for baby

    Dear Carolyn: My husband and I are “bidding” for a closed adoption through our church. The birth mother is 17 and already has a child. She is considering us as well as one other couple. This process involves a lot of waiting and is really fraying my nerves. We are the “better” couple — higher